What's the best marriage advice you ever received?
Rebekka McLawhorn·February 17, 2022
On Valentine's Day, our Jesus is the Christ community got together and shared the best advice they had for a new couple. Here is what was shared:
- Pick up that thing you keep waiting for them to pick up.😂
- Talk to each other..not at each other..and never down to each other ❤️
- Listen to each other. Accept your differences. Never talk behind each other’s back!
- Never talk poorly about your spouse to anyone else (unless abuse is involved). If you have a problem with them, then bring it to them. It creates trust and builds communication.
- You’re a team! Help each other and cheer each other on in everything you do!
- Don't worry about being the perfect couple, just do your best to be perfect for each other ❤️
- It’s more important to keep the peace than to be right ❤️
- Always be willing to apologize. And then mean it when you do.
- Be best friends. Lift and support one another in interests and dreams. Don’t talk badly about one another to other people. Physical contact everyday.
- Listen to all advice given. Then follow none of it! AKA, do what is best for YOUR relationship. No one knows it better than you and your spouse! ❤️
- Communication is so important, you will grow so much together if it’s used. And remember to stay close to our Savior, the closer you are to Him the closer you will be to one another.
- ALWAYS say your sorry, when you know you have hurt him or her. No matter what is going on in your life, nothing brings you closer than to pray together for rejoicing, or hurting. Throw out if he or she knew me then they would know what I want...we do not have mind-reading capabilities, Communicate.
- Communicate about everything, then listen to your spouse. Support them in their dreams. ❤️
- Don’t talk bad about your spouse to someone else.
- Don’t forget to have fun❤️life is to be enjoyed not just endured.
- Communication is EVERYTHING. Not arguing or accusing, but communicating. I'm 10 months into my second marriage and it's just such a different experience in a healthy marriage where communication is able to happen. And don't stop doing the little things for the other person.
- Assume that whatever your spouse is doing is their best at that moment.
- Don’t wait or look for your spouse to make you happy - look for every way you can to make your spouse happy.
- I'd say the only thing you can do is spiritually prepare. There will be hard times, fun times, confusing times but among that having a relationship with God is the only thing that will make all those times 100% better and easier. Stick to learning from HIM slowly, being humble and patient instead of learning from others, mothers, and everyone else you want to complain to. Simply journal and let God teach you what you need to learn when the time comes
- Pay attention to what brings up big emotions and be inquisitive and curious before reactive. Doing work on your own emotional mental and emotional health will hugely add to the success of your marriage.
- Grow old together, look back, and see the great person you helped each other become ❤️
- Compliment your spouse and show love and respect.
- I once heard about a couple that sees a marriage counselor once a month. They use it as a fence post in their defense system instead of waiting for large issues to arise, they nip it in the bud before there is a larger problem. I thought this was a sound idea. A way to continually work on communication, understanding, and staying focused on the issues and goals they have within their marriage.
- Always listen to the Spirit, and DO what it tells you to do. You will always make the right choice in your relationship if you do. ❤️